Parashat Vayislach
What is the Secret to Overcoming the Inner Emptiness that We Sometimes Experience?
Why Do We Sometimes Feel Empty Inside Even When Things Are Going
Well?
Sometimes we feel this emptiness inside that is difficult to
explain. It is like an inner lack that we cannot place, but it sucks our energy
and makes us sad. Sometimes the inner emptiness even makes us sink into
depression. I have often experienced this internal lack in my heart, even when
I can count all my blessings intellectually. After having prayed and prayed and
then finally Hashem answered my prayer, the initial rush of riding on the
height of gratitude often takes a downward plunge into the abyss of darkness. This
happened to me a while after my innumerable prayers for a baby were answered, and
recently after Hashem answered my years of prayer for his soulmate. Please
don’t get me wrong, I’m ecstatically grateful for these blessings and others as
well, and I do express this gratitude often. Yet, even when I sing Hashem’s
praises and thank Him for all the many blessings, He has bestowed upon me – a
recommended practice – at times I feel that something is still missing deep
down, and I know that I’m not alone. I have this insatiable yearning for
something more… to feel a deeper connection… to be part of something much
greater – to tap into the infinite. When I studied the interaction between
Ya’acov and Esau, I had an Aha moment, that this sense of lack stems from following
Esau’s outlook, which is disconnected from infinity rather than tapping into Ya’acov’s
deepest attachment to the source of all.
What is the
Difference Between Having a Lot and Having it All?
When
Ya’acov returned to face his brother after years of separation, he presented him
with a generous gift of livestock. Esau reacted seemingly nicely by generously
refusing his brother’s gift on the grounds of having plenty himself and no need
for Ya’acov’s gift.
Although Esau called Ya’acov with the endearing title “My brother” Rashi explains that by saying I have a lot, Esau, spoke haughtily, “I have plenty,” [meaning] much more than I need. – [from Tanchuma Vayishlach 3] (Rashi, ibid.).
In the end, Ya’acov convinced Esau to receive his gift, by proclaiming that he (Ya’acov) was not only favorited with plenty by G-d, but moreover, he had everything.
From the difference between Esau and Ya’acov’s attitudes regarding their blessings, we can extract vital life lessons about how to overcome a feeling of inner lack. Yet, what is the difference between Esau’s statement “I have a lot (רָב/rav)” and Ya’acov’s declaration of having it all (כֹל/chol)? Both statements seem to express gratitude and satisfaction with their lot in life.
The Esau Drive for Ephemeral Pleasures
How can anyone say that he has everything, isn’t there always something more to have?
The fundamental difference between “a lot” and “all” is that “a lot” refers to quantitative increase: a lot of power and abundance, yet “all” alludes to the unified source of abundance. Sometimes after teaching a class, I leave with an unsatisfied feeling of not having flowed well with the shiur. Then in review, I find that I indeed did teach many worthy Torah concepts to my students. Yet, the unified root that connects all the concepts was missing. When Ya’acov says he has “everything” he means that he is connected to the Almighty, from which it follows that he is connected to all the goodness and abundance in existence. For a person who has an inner sense of lack, of emptiness, its true fulfillment is only the attachment to G-d to “all.” Esau belongs to those people who are trying to collect more and more things from the world. Esau is so happy and pleased with his great power in collecting things that, with the generosity of the victor, he tells Ya’acov, “It’s okay, I have much more than you. I don’t need favors.” But in contrast, Ya’acov makes it clear to Esau that he is not at all concerned with multiplicity, but with attachment to the source, to the root, to what enlivens everything.
Know Him in All Your Ways!
Our great test is whether we succeed in being
connected to the Master of all, to the inner dimension of everything, and whether
we understand and live in a way in which all our actions are connected to the
great principles of life. “Know Him in all your ways” (Mishlei 3:6). The ability to be connected to “all,”
despite the multiple ways of the world, is the essence of our service in the
world. It is written that Ya’acov merited “an
inheritance without boundaries.” This is because of his ability to be connected to everything – to reach beyond all
narrow constraints and become part of infinity. “... Whoever cleaves to the
upper root, whatever he has is an aspect of “all,” because everything has a
point of vitality in it from Hashem, and “all” is included within this point.” (Sefat
Emet, Bereishit, Parashat Vayishlach, Year 1871). May we merit to fulfill “Know
Him in all your ways,” and thus be
blessed in every way! (Yeshivat Har Beracha).
Gratitude Focus
for the Week of Parashat Vayishlach
This meditation is to help us get in touch with the aspect of “all,” and cleave to the upper root.
- Settle Yourself and Become Aware of Your Breath – Take three deep breaths, breathing in, breathing out. Breathe in positivity, breathe out, and let go of old and stale air, stories, and complaints. Breathe in, breathe out. Sit with our attention on the breath. Relax your body, drop your shoulders, and be still.
- Recall Your Blessings and Accomplishments – With every inhale increase positivity and well-being. Exhale all the negative emotional toxins. Allow your mind to wander over all your blessings and accomplishments in life. Let each of them pass before you and thank Hashem for them one by one. Keep breathing.
- Allow Yourself to Feel Fulfilled and Express Gratitude – Recite in your mind’s eye, “I have everything I need right now.” Repeat this sentence over and over like a mantra. Thank Hashem with all your heart for fulfilling all your needs.
- Tune Into the Root Connecting all of Your Blessings – Keep breathing and open your heart to truly get in touch with the “everything” that Hashem is granting you. Allow your mind to go deeper into the inner divine root of everything good in your life.
- Expand Your Boundaries to Tap into Infinity – Ponder how Ya’acov merited “an inheritance without boundaries” via his ability to reach beyond all narrow boundaries and become part of infinity. Visualize seeing yourself in the mirror holding a mirror in which you see yourself and, in that mirror, you are also holding a mirror ad infinitum.
- Stay attuned to ‘the all’ of Divine Infinity – Pray to visualize weaving all the strands of your blessings into one. Pray to reach beyond all narrow limitations and become part of infinity. Recite bakol, mikol, kol while tuning into how our patriarchs were blessed with all. Repeat this recitation several times.
- Pray to Hashem to Know Him in All Your ways – Recite: “May I truly tap into the consciousness that every blessing and accomplishment in my everyday life are part of the Holy Divine realm.
- Repeat These Affirmations to Yourself – Take a deep breath at the end of each sentence. “I am a Jew connected to my Divine Essence!” “Sometimes I do not know. It is OK not to know. What is not known is an invitation to be curious and to discover. I do my best. I let go of the rest.” “I trust that whatever Hashem gives me whether revealed or concealed good, is exactly what I need to reach my full potential.” “My feeling of lack is being filled right now by the root of the Divine all.”
- Return Your Attention to Your breath – If your mind wanders off, come back to the home base of Your breath. Allow yourself to feel at rest, welcome the feeling of peace and serenity.
- On the Next Breath, Gently and Easily, open your eyes – and return your attention to the space you are in.
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