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Tuesday, September 12, 2023

Sarah’s Role in the Akeida and in the Shofar of Rosh Hashana

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A Torah message from Rebbetzin Chana Bracha Siegelbaum, Rosh Hashana 5768


Sarah’s Role in the Akeida and in the Shofar of Rosh Hashana

We blow the shofar (Ram’s horn) on Rosh Hashana to remember Avraham’s near sacrifice of his favorite son Yitzchak. We hear a lot about Avraham’s greatness concerning the Akeida (binding of Yitzchak), but what about Sarah? What was her involvement in the Akeida? Did she know about it beforehand, or did Avraham keep it hidden from her? Did she play any part whatsoever in this self-sacrificing act? The commentaries are surprisingly silent regarding this matter.

Sarah is known to be Avraham’s devoted wife. She worked in a team with Avraham in all his great accomplishments, yet we never hear anything about Sarah’s merit regarding the Akeida, could it be possible that she had no part in his greatest most exemplary deed?

Midrash Tanchuma interprets the entire Eishet Chail verse by verse as the eulogy Avraham lamented for Sarah after her demise. When it states: “She rose while it was still night,” the midrash explains that this refers to the time when “Avraham rose early”. There are two instances when the Torah describes Avraham rising early: at the sending away of Yishmael with Hagar and at the Akeida. Etz Yosef comments: When “Avraham rose early” Sarah too rose early and went on the way with them to escort them. Perhaps this implies that Sarah indeed did have a role not only in expelling Yismael but also in the near sacrifice of Yitzchak.

Several Midrashic sources and Rashi link the Akeida with Sarah’s death. He explains that when Sarah heard that Yitzchak was almost sacrificed her soul flew out of her body and she died. The midrash offers more details. …Satan went to Sarah and asked: “Did you hear what happened in the world?” She answered, “No.” He said, “Avraham took Yitzchak his son, and slaughtered him, offering him up on the altar as a sacrifice.” Sarah began to cry and moan the sound of three wails, which corresponded to the three blasts of the shofar, and then her soul burst forth from her, and she died.

There are several different interpretations of how the broken, crying sounds of the shofar are linked to Sarah’s cries when she hears about the near sacrifice of Yitzchak. According to another midrash we are commanded to blow six tekiyot – uninterrupted shofar sounds – on Rosh Hashana corresponding to Sara's six cries. It is interesting to note that the name Sarah comprises the initials of Shofar Rosh Hashana, indicating an intrinsic connection between Sarah and the significance of the Shofar.

According to Aviva Zornberg, the shofar on Rosh Hashana is supposed to help us re-enter the state of Sarah’s pain. She dies in a haunted cry of ecstasy beyond civilization. It is the sound that bridges the ecstasy experienced at a wedding with the ecstasy of grief. There is no criticism of the way Sarah cried when she was dying. On the contrary, we are asked to enter into her state of mind. Sarah dies in the middle of the six cries. If she had managed to complete her cries she would perhaps have gone to a different level. On Rosh Hashana, we complete Sarah’s cries.

If Sarah already intuitively sensed the Akeida when she rose in the middle of the night to prepare the provisions she sent with Avraham and Yitzchak, why would she die from shock when she heard about it? How is it possible that this righteous woman to whom Avraham is inferior in respect of prophecy could so easily fall prey to the tricks of the Satan?

Sefer Avodat Hashem on Parashat Chayei Sarah explains that Sarah’s death was not the result of shock, but rather she deliberately handed over her soul at the very climax of the Akeida. Sarah perceived the holiness that was engendered by means of the great holy unification. Since the place of the Akeida was far from her to walk, to participate in it; she decided to unify with the act from afar by giving over her soul in love and purity at the moment of this great holiness.

The Zohar explains that Yitzchak was born with a feminine soul and an essential attachment to his mother Sarah. At the Akeida Yitzchak had a near-death experience, the feminine aspect of his soul departed and he received his masculine soul which enabled him to detach from his mother and afterward cleave to his wife. This is why the description of the birth of Rivkah is juxtaposed to the Akeida, Prior to the Akeida, without his masculine soul, Yitzchak would have been unable to bear progeny. Since Yitzchak’s feminine soul was intrinsically attached to the soul of his mother Sarah, at the moment when his feminine soul left him, Sarah’s soul also had to depart from this world. This explains why Sarah was bound to pass on during the split second of the binding of Yitzchak, the exact moment before Avraham was told to put down his knife.

Perhaps we may venture to say that in this way Sarah’s role in the Akeida had an aspect that was even greater than Avraham’s, while Avraham got up early in the morning, Sarah rose even beforehand while it was still night. In a super-conscious way Sarah “knew” even before Avraham, and while Avraham was willing to sacrifice his favorite son, she was willing to sacrifice her own soul for the sake of her only son Yitzchak. Through her death she enabled the birth of his masculine soul, giving over her life for the sake of allowing Yitzchak to beget life and become his independent ultimate self, get married, and raise his own family. In this way, Sarah’s cries from which we model the sounds of the shofar are both the wails of mourning for death and ecstasy of birth. They emanate from the very deepest place where death and life are one.

You have the ability to continue Sarah’s self-sacrifice for the sake of building families in the Land of Israel, and you can make a great difference without having to give over your own life. You can ensure life both in This World and the Next through your generous donation to support Women’s Torah learning in the Land of Israel. By donating to Midreshet B’erot Bat Ayin you are supporting the Jewish families of tomorrow. It is almost Rosh Hashana, please increase your merits by donating to Midreshet B’erot Bat Ayin.

Shana Tova, Tikateivu V’Tichateimu l’Alter Chayim Tovim!!!!
May you be inscribed in the Book of Life!
With Blessings of the Torah & the Land, Chana Bracha Siegelbaum

Wednesday, July 5, 2023

How Does the Perpetual Elevation Offering Teach Us Equanimity?

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Parashat Pinchas
How Does the Perpetual Elevation Offering Teach Us Equanimity?

How can our Belief in Hashem’s Goodness Affect our Attitude to Hardships?
You don’t have to be bipolar to suffer from mood swings. Everyone and especially women experience ups and downs. There is even a kabbalistic term describing this phenomenon: Mochin de’Gadlut – expanded consciousness, and Mochin de’Katnut – constricted consciousness. As these terms indicate, mood swings have nothing to do with your life circumstances at any given moment. It is possible to experience expanded consciousness even when G-d forbid facing tragedy. It’s not easy to achieve such a place of spiritual freedom, joy, love, and fulfillment when in the midst of great hardships, but this is the goal towards which every believing Jew must aspire. Knowing that Hashem is the Master of the Universe in charge of EVERYTHING that happens everywhere and being aware that כָּל דְּעָבִיד רַחְמָנָא - לְטַב עָבִיד (בבא קמה לח) – “Everything the Compassionate One does is for the good” (Babylonian Talmud Baba Kama 38), how can we not be constantly happy? If our belief is more than just lip service, our hearts must be perpetually filled with love, trust, and acceptance of whatever Hashem dishes out to us. When in the state of expanded consciousness, we can break through, triumph over our emotional-intellectual-spiritual limitations, and express our latent powers of divine connection. Yet, unfortunately, even if we would never admit it, when life doesn’t unfold our way, we may harbor repressed resentment towards Hashem, struggling with the feeling that He has turned his back on us, no longer caring about us. How can we elevate ourselves out of this state of constricted consciousness? How can we overcome the negative impulse of sadness and feeling estrangement?

The Key to Feeling Constantly Cheerful Through Thick and Thin

I’m feeling so elated that my son finally got engaged! It now is becoming crystal clear how all the hardships our family went through during the last decade led us to this happy celebration. Yet when we were in the midst of the murkiest challenges, on the verge of despair, not yet glimpsing the light at the end of the tunnel, how could we perceive Hashem’s goodness and His love for us? If only I had known that in another decade, year, or month my prayers would be fulfilled, the years of waiting wouldn’t have been so unbearable. Like a pregnant mother with swollen legs, heartburn, heaviness, or other side effects, she can bear it all when she imagines the baby she soon will birth. So, the key to feeling constantly cheerful through thick and thin is developing our sense of imagination, to envision all the possible good that ensues from our present suffering. Had we not been waiting so many years for our son to get engaged, we would not have felt as elated when it finally happened. The deeper the pain the greater the gain! From our peak of joy, we can now fathom the good points of being down and low. I believe the secret to acquiring the constancy in our Divine service, is to superimpose our moments of spiritual highs unto the bleak epochs of gloom. By learning to perpetually cleave to Hashem and remember His prior kindness, whether to us or to our ancestors, we can elevate the hard times and infuse them with eternal joy.   

Unpacking the Secret to Equanimity
Sarah our Matriarch possessed the secret to equanimity – as it states, “The life of Sarah was one hundred years and twenty years and seven years; [these were] the years of the life of Sarah” (Bereishit 23:1). Rash”i learns from the apparently redundant phrase “Shnei Chayei Sarah” – “the years of the life of Sarah” – that all her years were equally good. It is a very high level to achieve such a temimut (wholeheartedness) regardless of what we are going through. Although the beginning of Sarah’s life bore many difficulties such as famine, being taken captive by Pharaoh, and Avimelech, and only at the end of her life she experienced great blessings. Nevertheless, she never changed her positive attitude with the changes in her life. Therefore, it says about Sarah: “She bestows good and never bad all the days of her life.” Her perfection was above the effects and changes of time and therefore she was able to withstand any test (Sefat Emet, Parashat Chayei Sarah, Year 1896).

Rising Perpetually to Focus on the Good Beyond the Changes of the Times
In Parashat Pinchas we are told to offer a עֹלָה תָמִיד/olah tamid ‘perpetual elevation offering:’ 

ספר במדבר פרק כח פסוק ג וְאָמַרְתָּ לָהֶם זֶה הָאִשֶּׁה אֲשֶׁר תַּקְרִיבוּ לַהָשֵׁם כְּבָשִׂים בְּנֵי שָׁנָה תְמִימִם שְׁנַיִם לַיּוֹם עֹלָה תָמִיד:
“You shall say to them: This is the fire offering which you shall offer to Hashem: two unblemished lambs in their first year each day as a continual burnt offering” (Bamidbar 28:3).

It didn’t say olat tamid – ‘a perpetual burnt offering’ but olah tamid – ‘perpetually rising’ for we are called upon to perpetually rise before the measure of judgment and offer defense for others (Siftei Kohen, Bamidbar 28:3). The tzaddikim (righteous) only look at the good points of Israel, to awaken them from slumber. Their eyes always look upward, that is – upon the good points within Israel which rise above to the highest realm. Tzaddikim don’t want to look down at all, that is – at their evil, for the good is the aspect of above, whereas the bad is the aspect of below. This is the explanation of “Who knows the spirit of people which ascends on high, and the spirit of the beast which descends below to the earth?” (Kohelet 3:21); (Rebbe Natan of Breslev, Likutei Halachot, Orach Chaim, Hilchot Techumin Ve’iruvei. Halacha 6). Rising above perpetually to focus only on the good is what enables us to rise beyond the changes of the times like Sarah, our Mother, to tap into true inner joy unaffected by our external circumstances.

EmunaHealing Exercise for Achieving Steadfast, Perpetual Equanimity
1. Sit upright supported by the back of your chair or cushion, by the wall or if you are able, sit upright with a straight back without any support.  Close your eyes and inhale slowly.
2. Breathe deeply through your nose and imagine that your head is being pulled upward with an invisible string connecting you with the Above. Become aware of your body and how you are sitting steadfastly straight as you lift your chest and heart upwards. Your feet are firmly planted on the earth and your seat touching the ground or cushion with your arms resting relaxed at your side. Envision a straight line from your lower back through your neck all the way to the top of your head.
3. Now imagine a flame of fire rising upward above your head and directing your entire being towards the higher Divine realms. Envision that you are rising with the flame, you are perpetually rising upwards. Whatever distracting thoughts come your way, bring yourself back to being the perpetual flame, rising, rising, rising! Only seeing the good points in yourself and others.
4. Even if negative thoughts distract you to try to get you down, just let them pass through you and reconnect with the flame directed to the above. Keep steadfastly rising!
5. Just as the rose, when it is placed between the thorns, the northern wind pushes it towards the south and the thorn stings it; the southern wind pushes it towards the north and the thorn stings it. Nevertheless, its heart is directed straight to the Above. Similarly, Israel – although they are dried up, suffering, and under forced labor – their heart is directed towards their Father in heaven… (Midrash Vayikra Rabbah 23:5).
6. Imagine the fiery flame merging with the rose that withstands the wind and the changes of the times. So many challenges try to push you down, restrict your consciousness, and make you small-minded, yet you continue to steadfastly rise above. Breathe in while envisioning the word Olah – ‘rise,’ and breathe out while focusing on the word tamid – ‘perpetually.’ Repeat 4 additional times.
7. You are constantly becoming an olah tamid always rising up to G-d, despite all the obstacles. No pain – whether physical or emotional – can get you down because you are aware of the ultimate goodness of Hashem, the Almighty. Nothing less than the very best emanates from Him, even if it isn’t always apparent, your heart knows it, and your emunah keeps rising with the upward flame.
8. Breathe into Hashem’s goodness. כָּל דְּעָבִיד רַחְמָנָא - לְטַב עָבִיד/kol d’avid, Rachmana, l’tav avid – Everything the Compassionate One does, He does for the good! Be still and allow yourself to feel Hashem’s immense love for you right now! Raise your arms above your head and receive the Divine abundance and blessings and imagine sending them to different parts of your being while gently caressing the aura surrounding you.
9. You are an olah tamid – a perpetually offering! As you are embraced by Hashem’s love, your entire being yearns to become One with the Divine. Become aware of how the feeling of equanimity gradually settles within you and calms your spirit. Whenever you are ready you may open your eyes and reinter your world with renewed aspirations and calmness.